A comment was left on my American Apparel post last night by the author of a body image blog and specifically this post. The site itself is quite strange and is encouraging people to work at being skinny, but not through eating disorders, or something ridiculous like that.
Anyway, the post I linked there featured pictures of readers and the author complimented different skinny parts of them. Quite a lot of the time I felt she was just lying to have something to say, like when she said a girl with a flabby belly had a ‘lovely little waist’.
I didn’t see a waist.
As well as this, I also felt that the girls in the pictures showing off their ribs and rolls weren’t even remotely attractive.
Yes I know that saying that serves me to the ‘positive body image’ lions, but I think it needs to be said.
I’m not saying that fat girls are ugly and I’m not saying that really skinny girls are ugly. What I’m saying is that a skinny girl wearing figure-hugging clothes does not look attractive because she is unhealthy looking. What I’m saying is that a fat (and omg yes, I’m using the word ‘fat’) girl bet into a low cut, hip-skimming, tight tee does not look attractive because giant stomachs and rolls are not prettty.
I’m so sick of people trying to say “as long as you’re wearing what you want and feel confident and beautiful, then it’s ok” because it’s a lie. It’s not ok.
First of all from a health perspective it’s not ok. Having too little or too much weight is unhealthy and you’re putting yourself in danger.
Secondly from a style point of view (which is the main point of this article), if you wear something that doesn’t suit your size, I don’t care how beautiful you feel, you don’t look it.
I have a short upper body and long legs, therefore high-waisted jeans make me look deformed, so I don’t wear them.
I have skinny shapeless arms, and wearing tank tops make my arms look unhealthy, so I don’t wear them without something covering my shoulders.
My stomach has said hello to a bit of extra poundage in recent months, so I don’t wear tight or short tops!
It’s not being shallow, it’s not vanity; it’s common sense. If I wear something unflattering, I know people aren’t going to look at me and go Wow she’s so confident! They’re going to look at me and say She doesn’t look great.
I’m not one of those people who depend on others to give me good self-esteem. I’m very practical when it comes to my body, and I know what works and what doesn’t.
And I enjoy putting on an outfit that suits me and makes me look good!
And I’m just sick of people trying to push fat people in my face while telling me that she’s a real woman.
Well unless she’s a REALLY high-tech robot, yeah I knew she was a real woman, just like me. But it’s not ok for all women to look like that because she looks terrible and can barely breathe.
Now I know that’s harsh, and I don’t mean to make it sound like all fat and really skinny people need to be locked up.
We come in all shapes and sizes and if a person is happy with their weight, big or small, then fair play (again unless it’s affecting your health!)! BUT, while you might be happy with your weight, the rest of the world doesn’t want it rubbed in their face so please dress to suit your size!